Just be the change...

Everyone here knows what has happened; still everyone is talking about the same. Nobody is talking what they can do to improve the condition of our nation and avoid such incidences in future. Individuals can really contribute by not just joining the protest march. As the march will only give satisfaction to the present and maybe some past incidences. We all need to plan for a better future, where girls can live and not die a painful death like this.

Everyone is questioning the political system of India and expecting them to react to it. Let me ask one thing- After seeing the past record how many times has the political parties reacted to a situation appropriately? How many of those candle marches have been provided justice? How many sufferers have got justice and peace back? After adding up all the numbers above if your answer is still a small number, then please wake up and look up to the right people for the right solution.

Yes, the right people are you, your friends, acquaintances and family members. You always think that none of our known ones can do such a crime, so, why even take the pain of discussing it with them. But, it is not so. If you discuss it with the people you know and inflict in them the same thoughts – respecting a woman, raping as heinous crime etc, then you might be the one who changes or shakes at least one person’s conscience and stop him from committing a crime or seeing one either.

As we all remember it was a gang rape, damned six devils were present there. Our friends, with whom we talk, can propagate the same thoughts further to all sorts of people they know. Such awareness drives has to be an individual effort. Males and females should talk about this openly as the devils don’t show mercy when they do it openly (then why should we not talk about it openly).

Present scenario of the city has gone from bad to worse and is continuing to go that way. The only way to stop it is to change the mindset of the people. More people need to talk about it and create awareness so that when generation Y (as they are called) goes forward to take respectable positions, they should not misuse their power and they should provide justice to all the victims. Only they can promote a healthy India. So, if we want a better future for our nation, we need to work on building the thoughts of tomorrow’s youth on different and more sensible lines. This will make some change and some things a little better for our generations to come.

Don’t wait…Just be the change….because people have died and are dying a painful and unfulfilling death by just expecting the change will happen on its own. It is useless to rely on the political system. However, people who appropriately know the legal terms must work in the direction of orienting the laws to be stricter in this respect.

Thought for the day??

...really is it always a thought for the day? Well, in my case I always get a thought at night that stays with me throughout the darkness and whoop...it goes off in the morning until I write about it.

A thought is nothing but some words that force you into deeper insights about you and your life. It comes like a roller coaster in your mind, either puts everything out of place or puts everything into place. This makes your world more sensible than ever and leaves you with more questions to help you delve into deeper insights. 

The whole process of thought coming in your mind, hitting your nervous system hard and fading out slowly, changes your outlook.

But the downside is that whatever we do and with whoever we are greatly affect our thoughts. So, in order to make them better, it is necessary to keep good company and do the right things ( yeah...you need to define " right" for yourself).

Thought for the day or the night, 

can be heavy, just take it light!!

Take care people n keep thinking...

Two sides of the story!!

There were two good friends- a girl and a guy. They were good enough for each other almost every time. They always sat together. They ate together. They laughed together and shared new friends together. Then came days when both of them got busier and spent less time with each other. Since they were there for a purpose, both of them started working for it. In the race they lost track of each other.

Suddenly one day, one of them came and told the other one that he likes her a lot since the beginning. He was very fond of her and very serious about his feelings for her. He tried to convey this feeling to her in every possible way thereafter. He expected the same feelings and devotion from her. But things were not so smooth, she was delighted to hear about his feelings but she did not respond with the same feelings. Maybe she had feelings or maybe she did not have any. But he really wanted her to have those feelings for him. One fine day, she told him that she likes him as he has been a great friend throughout and she wants them to be the best of friends ever, but she cannot go beyond this. He was hurt, as the response was against his expectations. He smoked and got drunk more than before. He became sad and upset. She tried to cheer him up, but no good, she was the one who hurt him and she cannot mend it now maybe. With each passing day, things and situations became complex. They got less time with each other now as a lot of things around them had already changed when they got busier. He was in a difficult situation as he wasn’t in a state to talk to her, since she did not have the same feelings and he had strong feelings for her. He made more friends and started staying with them. But anyways he wasn’t able to get over the fact that she did feel the same. He decided to refrain himself from talking to her, because he thought this will only make him worse. Before the final decision he wanted to know exactly what she had in her mind. But again a limited time, made them talk for a short while and in brief. Following this brief conversation, he decided not to talk to her at all as this may cause pain to him. He made new friends; he spent more time with them and did not talk to her. He was upset but he knew that whatever he is doing is the best for him and her.

Maybe this is an ordinary situation; maybe many people have been through his pain and are able to relate to his story. But is it really just his story? Is the girl not important? Is she not a human being? Why do people think that she chose to break this friendship? Why can’t anyone see that she had a friend (for that matter the only friend in class) with whom she shared everything? She has lost that…or I should say not lost but she cannot share anything with anyone now.

Her part of the story begins here…

They were good friends. She felt comfortable when he was around since they were together from the very first day. They sat together, ate together, laughed together and shared new friends together. She thought it will go on like this. But as they got busier, their lives changed. The people around them changed. He was running in a prestigious race. She feared that if he won, he will be famous and may not choose to stay with her then. But at the same time she wished that he won the race. Finally he did win and became famous. She did not understand how things should be then, and started giving him time and space so that he doesn’t feel too suffocated with her. They chatted less, laughed less and shared less. Then came a day, he confessed that he likes her from a long time. She did not have a hint, rather she feared that she has lost her friend already when he won the race. She was delighted to hear that as she thought that she hasn’t lost her friend. They again started talking more than before and shared their thoughts and problems with each other. She thought they were best friends now. She was very happy as best friends light up your otherwise dull life. She thought this is the best thing happened to her as it came as a surprise to her. She thought now they are so good friends and they will remain so. But things started changing against her expectations. One day he asked her to tell about her feelings for him. She liked him every which way, but at the same time she was aware that there is no future to this. She was a practical person and wanted him to handle it that way. But he was an emotional person and was not able to handle it anyway. She became helpless, thinking about what she can do to keep this friendship the way it was. She tried to cheer him up and convince him to talk to her. But all her efforts were in vain. He took a decision that he won’t and can’t talk to her now as it was becoming very difficult for him to handle his feelings. She understood this, but it was even more difficult to handle this for her because her friend was in a problem that she could not solve and that is costing them their friendship now. She wanted to make things fine, but he became stubborn with each passing day and behaved differently. He was miserable, but even she felt terrible because she did not bring the “liking” part in her friendship and she could not handle it well when it came from him. She kept on asking where did she go wrong, where did she mess up all this, where did she lost everything, why did she lost a friend like him…but guess it was too late to think about anything.

The only choices she had were- either say yes and lie to her and him, as there was no future or say no and lose him, as he can’t stand her anymore. She lost from both sides. The friendship ended on both sides…what was the solution that could have enabled this friendship to sustain…I guess no one knows.

dil tu chupke se kyun rota hai...

Expectations...one word that always lands you into problems. Everyone expects something from someone, but the emotional moment is when you do not get it the way you want. It suddenly changes everything around you. It alters people around you; from good to bad, beautiful to ugly, reliable to unreliable, sweet to annoying...n much more. Once your expexctations are not met, feelings like being cheated, backstabbed and sad become very common.

If you think someone will come for you...someone will come to you...someone cares for you...someone wants to talk to you...someone won't be angry...someone won't be busy...someone will be on time...someone can spend for you...someone will help you...someone will stand for you...someone will love you.. someone will like you...someone will appreciate you...someone will be happy...someone needs you...someone will feel good to have you around...well if any of these are true, you are surely being too much dependent on that " someone." Maybe that person is not bad, but as he or she didn't meet your expectations, you hate him or her. So you are at fault here, when you assume that a person with different personality and mindset will react according to your mindset. This fault causes you pain and you can't shout on people as you are the one who is at fault. The blame game is easy. What is difficult is to take the blame on yourself.

In such situations, since you have understood the pain and misery it causes, "zero expectations" should be the name of the game. People who are close to you will hear you, if they were not as per your expectations. But for remaining others, you should avoid having any expectations at all. So, all in all, you should expect only from people on whom you can vent out your anger without any reason, only these  people will be there with you when you are angry and will help you to overcome your expectation problem.

Remember " zero expectations" is the name of the game...stay happy, live happy...because important people will understand...n surely you don't wanna give importance to those who can not understand!!

Signing off for the day...
caio...

Perception!!

I don't like crowd
I don't like jam,
just an empty road
wher I can tram!

I want to build
I want to learn,
just a way it is
there is nothng to earn!

I go to school
I go to god,
just there is no place
that strikes a chord!

I wanna fly
I wanna see,
just the part of world
which is free!!

Turner turns against Imagine!

U.S.-based Turner Broadcasting System Inc, a Time Warner company, has decided to shut its Hindi general entertainment channel ‘Imagine TV’ in India as poor ratings hampered any further investment in it. It had acquired this channel from NDTV for nearly USD 127 million in December 2009.

This channel really had low TRPs or not...is still a question to me. But certainly this channel had some very nice and sweet new shows like "Saware sabke sapne - Preeto", "Jamuna paar", "Gyaan guru" (My mom really liked this one). Some older ones like "Swayamvar", which brought a different reality show concept and the feel of prince and princess to the people involved, ""Jasuben Jayantilaal Joshi Ki joint Family" and "Kitani Mohobbat Hai" that I can recall. I will miss all these shows now. It doesn't feel good at all. It is like watching a suspense movie without climax.

I have never seen a channel shutting down like this. I mean, even though I knew Imagine TV shut down news, today I was searching from all the channels and asking my mom again and again - "Why isn't Preeto coming, has the timings for the show changed ?" Then I suddenly realised that the channel is shut and so are the shows on it. I am not a huge fan of "Preeto", but I get too inquisitive to know as to what will happen next. But, if I am so sad on this shut down news, I wonder how the fans must have reacted...

"Imagine TV has not performed and grown as per expectations. While some programmes delivered satisfactory ratings, overall the channel was unable to achieve the ratings consistency needed to sustain the business and support continued investment," Turner International Managing Director South Asia Siddharth Jain said in a statement.

Imagine was Turner’s second attempt in the highly competitive general entertainment (GEC) space in India after its GEC Real, a joint venture with Miditech, failed. Turner currently operates channels such as HBO, CNN, Cartoon Network, POGO, WB in India.

Probably, "business"...is what they thought of, when taking this decision. But, what about the lives of so many people that were dependent on this channel. Firstly, this news came as a shock to all the people who were happily shooting for the next episodes of their shows. Secondly, the viewers who were eagerly waiting for the shows the next day were very disappointed to see some old serials running again. The company should have given more buffer time and warning to both viewers and employees to handle it in a better way.

Well, it's true that Imagine TV shut down is not a good news, but with an optimistic view I see a better channel coming in place and doing justice to old half-told stories and its viewers.

Things unsaid...

" Two best friends, who share everything from a small thing like a chipped off nail to big problems at home, fight one day. The fight was silent and nobody new the reason behind it (or maybe one of them knew it). Gradually, the fight itself found reasons and the best friends parted away from each other."
 

 ....Sometimes people find small reasons to part away, even though they have bigger reasons hiding inside their heart that urge them to stay. Such situations are the most painful ones and it takes a long time to get over them because there is a lot that is left unsaid, a lot of things that are good are still floating in the memory and most of all a lot of anger and rage stays like a dormant volcano inside.

Not only these situations, but sometimes there are things you just want to say to some people in your past. You just want to go to them and say out loud how special they were, and how miserable they made you feel or how irritating but lovable they were or how always they haunt your memories....These things unsaid are like a burden that one carries. People say - "Some things are better left unsaid"...but really some things that are unsaid must be said to be free!!!